As I faced challenges this week in my caregiver journey with my siblings, I realized that life to some people is a contest, a constant competition and comparison of their performance against another’s performance. And, a competitive spirit in a situation that definitely IS NOT a competition makes a tough situation tougher.
Life isn’t about who’s the best or who completes a task first. It’s largely about finishing what we set out and purposed to do to the best of our ability. An old spiritual song that was often sung in our hometown church summed it up this way: “the race is not given to the swift, neither is it given to the strong but to he that endureth to the end. He that endureth shall be saved.”
Therefore, what’s important is that we fulfill our purpose and call, not necessarily that we finish #1 or even finish quickly, because matters involving people often take delicate handling in order to reap the best and most lasting outcome. A competitive spirit and being #1 won’t help us to make and retain lasting and loving friendships. It won’t make people love and stick by us or have faith in us. It won’t make us love ourselves any more than we did before we placed another “win” under our proverbial belts.
A competitive spirit is out of place in matters of the heart. Competition pits one against another and has its place, particularly, in the world of sports where we are free to get our game on. However, competition wasn’t intended for the inner courts of our lives and relationships and causes a variety of unnecessary disturbances in our lives.
Life, and the things we do in honor of our Creator, ourselves and others, is about sharing and showing love, honor and respect for the people and principles that are important to us. Hand’s down, no competition necessary.